About Ashley

About Ashley

Ashley A. Starzec, LMFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist | Owner & Founder of Perfect Harmony Relationship Solutions, LLC

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in the State of Massachusetts and a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. I have proudly provided therapy to couples, families, and individuals since 2007. My clinical training in Systems Theory allows me to have a have a systemic and non-pathological therapeutic style; more simply, I focus on how the presenting issue or problem affects the entire “system” (the individual, family, or couple) instead of pathologizing the person. I offer my clients systemic, strengths-based, solutions-focused, and empathetic therapeutic services to improve all of their most important relationships. These services include pre-marital therapy, couple/marital therapy, and relationship-focused therapy for adult individuals.

I specialize in the treatment of relationships and “systems:” couples, families, and adult individuals. My mission is to help my clients restore balance and harmony to their lives and relationships through a variety of therapeutic modalities. I believe that therapy does not have to be scary or punitive; it should be a collective decision made by the system (the individual, family, or couple) with the intention of creating positive change.

My professional ethics code prohibits me from soliciting testimonials or reviews from clients, but I have been told that I create a safe environment that allows my clients to be honest with themselves, their partners, and their family members throughout the therapeutic process. I am very passionate about my work and feel honored to share in each client’s journey. I have a wide knowledge of various therapeutic modalities and techniques, which allows me to meet each individual’s and couple’s unique style and treatment preferences. I have also received preliminary training in EFT/Emotionally-Focused Therapy (scroll down for additional information on this model).

I was first drawn to the idea of systemic therapy before I even knew it existed. As a teenager, I struggled to communicate effectively with my family and often felt overwhelmed by my emotions. Internally, I knew that I needed some guidance, but I wanted my family receive this guidance with me because I understood that my communication difficulties were not mine alone; my family members influenced me and I influenced them. However, I didn’t learn about family therapy until I was in my clinical psychology classes in college! Now an LMFT, I am honored to help each and every family, couple, and individual that walks into my office.

Outside of the therapy room, I enjoy spending time with my husband and cat, spending time with family and friends, being an Auntie to several awesome kids, traveling to new places (my all-time favorite are the Balearic Islands in Spain!), practicing yoga, exercising, expressing my creativity, relaxing in sun & sand, experimenting with essential oils, and playing with flowers! I am also a proud PCOS Warrior (… don’t know what PCOS is? Ask me!).

I look forward to meeting new clients and am always open to initial phone consultations so interested clients can get a sense of my personality and my therapeutic style. Finding the right therapist is very important; in order to make the most progress, a client must feel a therapeutic connection with their therapist. Please give my office a call or send me an email and I would be more than happy to answer any questions you may have!

Ashley A. Starzec, LMFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist | Owner & Founder of Perfect Harmony Relationship Solutions, LLC

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in the State of Massachusetts and a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. I have proudly provided therapy to couples, families, and individuals since 2007. My clinical training in Systems Theory allows me to have a have a systemic and non-pathological therapeutic style; more simply, I focus on how the presenting issue or problem affects the entire “system” (the individual, family, or couple) instead of pathologizing the person. I offer my clients systemic, strengths-based, solutions-focused, and empathetic therapeutic services to improve all of their most important relationships. These services include pre-marital therapy, couple/marital therapy, and relationship-focused therapy for adult individuals.

I specialize in the treatment of relationships and “systems:” couples, families, and adult individuals. My mission is to help my clients restore balance and harmony to their lives and relationships through a variety of therapeutic modalities. I believe that therapy does not have to be scary or punitive; it should be a collective decision made by the system (the individual, family, or couple) with the intention of creating positive change.

My professional ethics code prohibits me from soliciting testimonials or reviews from clients, but I have been told that I create a safe environment that allows my clients to be honest with themselves, their partners, and their family members throughout the therapeutic process. I am very passionate about my work and feel honored to share in each client’s journey. I have a wide knowledge of various therapeutic modalities and techniques, which allows me to meet each individual’s and couple’s unique style and treatment preferences. I have also received preliminary training in EFT/Emotionally-Focused Therapy (scroll down for additional information on this model).

I was first drawn to the idea of systemic therapy before I even knew it existed. As a teenager, I struggled to communicate effectively with my family and often felt overwhelmed by my emotions. Internally, I knew that I needed some guidance, but I wanted my family receive this guidance with me because I understood that my communication difficulties were not mine alone; my family members influenced me and I influenced them. However, I didn’t learn about family therapy until I was in my clinical psychology classes in college! Now an LMFT, I am honored to help each and every family, couple, and individual that walks into my office.

Outside of the therapy room, I enjoy spending time with my husband and cat, spending time with family and friends, being an Auntie to several awesome kids, traveling to new places (my all-time favorite are the Balearic Islands in Spain!), practicing yoga, exercising, expressing my creativity, relaxing in sun & sand, experimenting with essential oils, and playing with flowers! I am also a proud PCOS Warrior (… don’t know what PCOS is? Ask me!).

I look forward to meeting new clients and am always open to initial phone consultations so interested clients can get a sense of my personality and my therapeutic style. Finding the right therapist is very important; in order to make the most progress, a client must feel a therapeutic connection with their therapist. Please give my office a call or send me an email and I would be more than happy to answer any questions you may have!

Education History

  • Antioch University New England (2009)Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy
  • Keene State College (2007)Bachelor of Arts in Clinical/Counseling Psychology and a Minor in Women’s Studies

Education History

  • Antioch University New England (2009)Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy
  • Keene State College (2007)Bachelor of Arts in Clinical/Counseling Psychology and a Minor in Women’s Studies

Professional Licenses

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MA #1449)

Information About MFTs And The EFT Model

A: Marriage and Family Therapists (MFTs) are mental health professionals trained in psychotherapy and family systems, and licensed to diagnose and treat mental and emotional disorders within the context of marriage, couples, and family systems. They evaluate and treat mental and emotional disorders, other health and behavioral problems, and address a wide array of relationship issues within the context of the family system.
Marriage and Family Therapists broaden the traditional emphasis on the individual to attend to the nature and role of individuals in primary relationship networks such as marriage and the family. MFTs take a holistic perspective to health care; they are concerned with the overall, long-term well-being of individuals and their families.
MFTs have graduate training (a Master’s or Doctoral degree) in marriage and family therapy and at least two years of clinical experience. Marriage and Family Therapists are recognized as a “core” mental health profession, along with psychiatry, psychology, social work and psychiatric nursing.
Source: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 2015.

A: MFTs are unique because they are trained in both psychotherapy and family systems, which allows them to focus on understanding client symptoms in the context of the relational interactions that influence behavior. The problem does not define the client, but rather is a symptom of his or her system.

  • MFTs work with individuals, couples and families. Whoever the client, MFTs view problems from a relationship perspective.
  • Family-based therapy is a powerful model for change. Research has shown that family-based interventions such as those utilized by MFTs are as effective as– and in many cases more effective than– alternative therapies, often at a lower cost.
  • MFTs work with a wide range of clinical issues, including depression, relationship problems, anxiety, affective (mood) disorders, substance abuse, and more.
  • MFTs apply a holistic perspective to health care; they are concerned with the overall, long-term well-being of individuals and their families.
  • MFTs practice short-term therapy; 12 sessions on average. Over 65% of cases are completed within 20 sessions and over 87% by 50 sessions.

Source: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 2015.

A: Refer to the AAMFT therapist search tool to locate a skilled MFT near you. Or, try Googling “LMFT near [your town, state].”

A: EFT is usually a short-term (8-20 sessions), structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the 1980’s and has developed alongside the science on adult attachment and bonding to expand our understanding about what is happening in couple relationships and to guide therapists. In the last fifteen years, Dr. Sue Johnson and her colleagues have further developed and refined the model and completed numerous studies. EFT is also used with families and individuals. A substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. The major contraindication for EFT is on-going abuse in the relationship. EFT is being used with many different kinds of couples in private practice, university training centres and hospital clinics and many different cultural groups throughout the world. These distressed couples include partners suffering from disorders such as depression, post traumatic stress disorders and chronic illness.
Source: International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), 2015.

A: EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment.

  • EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients combining experiential Rogerian techniques with structural systemic interventions.
  • Change strategies and interventions are specified.
  • Key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three change events.
  • EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. There is also research on the change processes and predictors of success.
  • EFT has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations.

Source: International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), 2015.

A: EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment.

  • EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients combining experiential Rogerian techniques with structural systemic interventions.
  • Change strategies and interventions are specified.
  • Key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three change events.
  • EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. There is also research on the change processes and predictors of success.
  • EFT has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations.

Source: International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), 2015.

***For real-life application and understanding of your OWN interactional cycle with your partner, I highly recommend purchasing and completing the couples’ EFT workbook: “An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us,” by Veronica Kallos-Lilly & Jennifer Fitzgerald (2015).***

Request A Consultation Today

If you’re interested in strengthening your relationship with your partner or building creating more harmony in your life, I encourage you to contact me to schedule a complementary 15-minute phone or video consultation so we can get to know each other before deciding to work together. I pride myself on tailoring a specialized treatment plan to address each client’s unique needs and goals. Let’s start working together to build a better future for all of your relationships!

If you’re interested in strengthening your relationship with your partner or building creating more harmony in your life, I encourage you to contact me to schedule a complementary 15-minute phone or video consultation so we can get to know each other before deciding to work together. I pride myself on tailoring a specialized treatment plan to address each client’s unique needs and goals. Let’s start working together to build a better future for all of your relationships!

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Proudly providing couple and adult individual therapy to the communities of Oxford, Webster, Dudley, Douglas, Southbridge, Sturbridge, Charlton, Auburn, Sutton, and beyond!

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Ashley A. Starzec, LMFT
351 Main Street, Oxford, MA 01540
Office Phone: (508) 987-1287
Email: ashley@perfectharmonysolutions.com

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